Calling off your relationship? Wait and try these things before giving up on each other

Relationships are no cakewalk. But most of the best things in life aren’t supposed to be, right? In every relationship, there are approach/distance, pursue/avoid, neglect/intrusion patterns. But who works for it by going against all odds, saves the relationship. Many couples tend to throw in the towel and want quick solutions to problems as they fail to understand that solutions are never easy! Following are some of the ways you should consider before you actually decide to call off your relationship:  

1. Stop the blame game

Blame game, as played by a lot of couples, lead to a pursuer-distancer dance. It leads to one partner to chase the other around. It is natural to feel like giving up in a situation where you are able to discuss the issue and have entered into a vicious cycle of resentment, frustration and anger instead.

In such a situation, instead of making your partner distant, you must work towards reducing the divide between both of you by trying to increase the positive reinforcement. You can do this by being thoughtful for your partner by helping them with their work, admire their positive qualities or simply talking out sincerely and being each other’s support.  

2. Boost up physical affection

Physical intimacy is important in a relationship as it is one of the most potent methods of displaying love and affection. Having a healthy physical relationship reduces stress hormones-lowering daily levels of the stress hormones cortisol.

3. Spend time with your partner on daily basis

Beyond providing emotional support in the time of need, spending time with each other helps a lot in repairing the broken relationship. Partners should adopt new ways of structuring their conversations which shows empathy. You are surely gonna have a deep and meaningful bond with a ‘we against others attitude’ if you express understandings and validate emotions.  

4. Practice forgiveness

Forgiveness is the key to a healthy relationship as it allows you to move on. It is no perfect solution to condone hurtful actions but it makes the partners feel that they are on the same team. Forgiving each other is the best way you can try out to be more understanding in a relationship.

So, the next time you have a disagreement with him or her, stop second-guessing the reactions and examine your own responses. Get your asses back to each other and apologise! Instead of becoming critical or feeling descended, adopt a resilient mindset and work how you can repair your relationship and get back on track. Coz life is too short for shitty sex and bad relationship!